Let’s clear up some misinformation.
The hymen is a thin membrane that stretches over the opening of most vaginas at birth. Far from being an almost impenetrable steel drum, the hymen has natural openings in it. How else would someone’s menstrual fluid get out of their body if they got their period before this tissue got stretched?
Stretching is really a more accurate description of what happens with the hymen than is “breaking” or “popping" and no, this doesn't have to involve painful or awful awkward sex.